11: Seek First to Understand
"if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail". Have you experienced someone trying to impose their point of view on you? Alternatively, have you tried to get across your perspective to others, but hit a wall? In this episode, Dr Yong will share some insights on how to be aware of multiple viewpoints and be sensitive towards other people's perspectives.
References:
1. Exchange between Chinese Philosophers: The debate between Zhuangzhi and Huizi is recorded in the book of Zhuangzi. This book is an ancient Chinese literature from the late Warring States period 476–221 BC that shows the carefree nature of the ideal Taoist sage. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhuangzi_%28book%29 (accessed 9 Dec 2019) and https://pages.ucsd.edu/~dkjordan/chin/LaoJuang/JoyOfFishe.html (accessed 4 Dec 2019)
2. Quote “If I am a hammer, everything out there is a nail”: This quote is adapted from a similar one which is often attributed to Mark Twain. For more discussion of deformation professionelle, which is the tendency to view things from the perspective of one’s professional experience, refer to Rolf Dobelli (2013), London: Hodder & Stoughton Ltd, p 280.
3. Tim’s podcast interview with Ann Miura-Ko: Refer to https://tim.blog/2018/08/07/the-tim-ferriss-show-transcripts-ann-miura-ko/ (accessed 9 Dec 2019) for details on the podcast interview.
4. Story of the businessman and the fisherman: This story was told to me by a friend. I googled it up and found that there are numerous versions which are largely similar. You can refer to: https://paulocoelhoblog.com/2015/09/04/the-fisherman-and-the-businessman/ for one of the versions.
5. The quote "Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change" in the introduction to the podcast is attributable Dr Wayne Dyer, an internationally renowned author and speaker in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. Source of quote: Dyer, W. (2009), Success Secrets, Retrieved from https://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/success-secrets/
1. Exchange between Chinese Philosophers: The debate between Zhuangzhi and Huizi is recorded in the book of Zhuangzi. This book is an ancient Chinese literature from the late Warring States period 476–221 BC that shows the carefree nature of the ideal Taoist sage. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhuangzi_%28book%29 (accessed 9 Dec 2019) and https://pages.ucsd.edu/~dkjordan/chin/LaoJuang/JoyOfFishe.html (accessed 4 Dec 2019)
2. Quote “If I am a hammer, everything out there is a nail”: This quote is adapted from a similar one which is often attributed to Mark Twain. For more discussion of deformation professionelle, which is the tendency to view things from the perspective of one’s professional experience, refer to Rolf Dobelli (2013), London: Hodder & Stoughton Ltd, p 280.
3. Tim’s podcast interview with Ann Miura-Ko: Refer to https://tim.blog/2018/08/07/the-tim-ferriss-show-transcripts-ann-miura-ko/ (accessed 9 Dec 2019) for details on the podcast interview.
4. Story of the businessman and the fisherman: This story was told to me by a friend. I googled it up and found that there are numerous versions which are largely similar. You can refer to: https://paulocoelhoblog.com/2015/09/04/the-fisherman-and-the-businessman/ for one of the versions.
5. The quote "Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change" in the introduction to the podcast is attributable Dr Wayne Dyer, an internationally renowned author and speaker in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. Source of quote: Dyer, W. (2009), Success Secrets, Retrieved from https://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/success-secrets/